Christmas Challenges (Part One)
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Peace In The Midst Of Change
Have you ever had life turn on a dime? Things were going good, not perfect, but very doable. And then something happened to turn just about everything upside down. That's happened to a lot of people; it has happened to me. Well here are some Biblical insights that I hope will help in the healing and restoration process.
Peace in the Midst of Change
Scripture
"Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever." — Hebrews 13:8
Reflection
Life can shift in an instant. A job loss, a health diagnosis, a move, or unexpected news can leave us feeling shaken and desperate to return to “normal.” Stress rises when the ground beneath us feels unstable. Yet Scripture reminds us that while circumstances change, God does not change.
Hebrews 13:8 anchors us in this truth: Jesus is constant. His love, His promises, and His presence remain steady even when everything else feels uncertain. When the storm rages, He is the calm. When routines collapse, He is the Rock.
Think of the disciples in the boat during the storm (Mark 4:35–41). Waves crashed, fear consumed them, and yet Jesus was present. With a word, He brought peace. In the same way, He speaks peace into our chaos today.
Encouragement
God is your stability: Even if life feels upside down, His character never shifts.
You don’t have to fix everything at once: God invites you to rest in Him while He works.
Peace is possible now: Not when things return to “normal,” but right here in the middle of change.
Prayer
Lord, You know the stress and fear that sudden changes bring. Thank You that You never change, even when everything else does. Help me to trust You as my anchor. Speak peace into my heart and guide me step by step. Remind me that You are faithful yesterday, today, and forever. Amen.
Practical Step
Take five minutes today to pause and breathe deeply. As you inhale, whisper: “God is with me.” As you exhale, whisper: “I will trust Him.” Repeat until your heart begins to rest in His unchanging presence.
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Precious Thanksgiving Memories
"Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change." (James 1:17)
One the precious gifts the Lord has given me is a Thanksgiving memory illustrated in our post-article photo. I remember watching my grandmother meticulously cook and tend to the turkey for our Thanksgiving dinner. I remember the many TG dinners, where she cooked for a house full of family and friends. I hope you have good Thanksgiving memories as well.
As Christmas looms on the horizon, we focus on the gift giving at Christmas, in hopes that we find our loved ones that one and perfect gift. In our text, we can agree with James, that our best efforts at gift giving, cannot compare with the gifts that come from our "Father of lights."
Of course, what can compare to the gift of His Son, who was given, to meet our desperate need of salvation, and the hope of eternal life. (John 3:16)
But In looking back on the year, leading right up to Christmas, God has given me, and my family, the gift of His presence, and providence in our lives. He has not left any stone unturned. The apostle Paul writes, "And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus." (Philippians 4:19)
In God's way, and in His time, the gifts of His love, come pouring into our lives.
This picture that reflects the love and sacrifice of my grandmother, not only at Thanksgiving, but in the days she was present in my life, reflects the love and sacrifice of our Lord, and Savior Jesus Christ. He came to this world, on behalf of the Father, to bring to us new life, and new hope. Precious Thanksgiving memories, how precious to sooth our souls! GP
You Don't Have To Agree With Them, To Love Them!
I remember many times, when I had disagreements with my parents. There were times when I did not speak to my parents because of our sharp disagreements. Looking back now, with both my parents gone home to heaven, it makes me think how wrong this was.
You don’t have to agree with your parents to love them—the Bible emphasizes honor and respect, not blind agreement. Scripture teaches that honoring parents is about showing care, gratitude, and dignity, even when you differ in beliefs or choices.
Key Biblical Insights
Honor ≠ Agreement
- Exodus 20:12 commands: “Honor your father and your mother…” This is about respect and value, not necessarily adopting their views.
- Ephesians 6:2 calls honoring parents “the first commandment with a promise,” linking it to blessing, not conformity.
Respect in Disagreement
- Proverbs 19:26 warns against dishonoring parents, but disagreement itself isn’t dishonor. Dishonor comes from ridicule, neglect, or contempt.
- Leviticus 19:3 says, “Each of you must respect your mother and father.” Respect can coexist with differing convictions.
Love Through Care and Gratitude
- Honoring parents includes caring for them in their needs (see Mark 7:10–12 where Jesus rebukes those who neglect parents under religious pretense).
- Love is expressed in kindness, patience, and gratitude (1 Corinthians 13), even when perspectives clash.
Practical Applications
Boundaries with Love
- You can respectfully say, “I see things differently,” while still showing kindness and maintaining relationship.
- Love means seeking peace (Romans 12:18), not erasing differences.
Adult Relationships
- As children grow, obedience shifts to honor. Adults are not commanded to obey parents in every matter, but to continue showing respect and care.
Christ’s Example
- Jesus Himself honored His earthly parents (Luke 2:51) yet prioritized God’s mission when it diverged from their understanding (Mark 3:31–35). This shows that love and honor can coexist with disagreement.
Takeaway
The Bible teaches that love for parents is expressed through honor, respect, and care—not through uniformity of thought. You can disagree with their opinions, choices, or worldview, yet still fulfill God’s command to honor them by treating them with dignity, gratitude, and compassion.
In a small village, every year the Lantern Festival lit up the night sky. A young boy named Wei grew up watching his parents work tirelessly in the rice fields, rarely having time to enjoy the celebrations. He noticed how his father’s hands were calloused and his mother’s back bent from years of labor, yet they never complained—they only smiled when Wei asked about the festival, saying, “One day, you’ll carry the light for us.”
Years passed, and Wei became a skilled craftsman. On the eve of the Lantern Festival, instead of joining his friends, he built two enormous lanterns shaped like cranes—symbols of longevity and respect. He carried them to the village square and lit them himself, dedicating them to his parents. The villagers gathered, marveling at the glowing cranes soaring above the crowd. Wei’s parents, standing quietly at the edge, were moved to tears. For the first time, they didn’t just watch the festival—they were honored at its heart.
From then on, the cranes became a tradition, reminding everyone that honoring one’s parents is not only about gratitude but about lifting them into the light they gave us.
Let's not let our disagreements destroy the time we have with our parents. This is where pride needs to be put aside, to foster wonderful moments and memories, that we can hold on to as we journey through this life.
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Fury Of A Family
What does "Fury" mean? It means violent, uncontrolled anger, or wild rage. It can also describe the wild or dangerous force of something, like a storm. Additionally, it can refer to a fierce or violent person."
Can families exhibit "fury"? Indeed they can. I have had an anger problem for years. Blowing up over little petty things that frustrated me. Has it affected my family? Yes, it has. They look at you as being like a volcano, that could erupt at any time. And everytime you do, it causes a lot of bitter feelings, that last through the years.
It really is a form of selfishness, when you don't stop to think about how your anger affects the other members of your family.
But anger is not the only way that a family can exhibit fury. Selfish expectations, can stir up negative emotions, and bitter feelings. When the other members expect you to accommodate their every whim and wishes. When you don't measure up to what their selfish standards are, you either lash out in anger, or you isolate yourself from the family, saying, "I do not want anything to do with you ever again!" Is that a form of "fury?"
The Bible offers profound insight into the struggles within families, tracing familial discord back to the earliest chapters of Genesis. Cain and Abel, the first siblings, were torn apart by jealousy and unbridled anger (Genesis 4:1–8), setting a precedent for how sin can fracture even the closest bonds.
James 4:1–2 asks, “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?” This reveals that much family conflict stems from internal struggles—pride, envy, selfish ambition—that spill outward.
Jesus Himself acknowledged that following Him could divide households (Matthew 10:34–36), not because He desired conflict, but because truth often challenges comfort and exposes hidden fractures. Yet Scripture also calls families to reconciliation and peace: “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18). The fury of families, then, is not new—but neither is the hope for healing through humility, forgiveness, and love.
I am learning to allow the Lord to help me with my anger problem, and my attitude of expectation. Are my emotional outbursts, and unreasonable expectations, doing as James says: "Producing the righteousness of God?" Or are they producing a "family fury" or the fruit of the Spirit, that the apostle Paul mentions in Galatians 5:22-23? GP
Our relationship with Jesus Christ is the most important because it anchors our identity, purpose, and eternal destiny in divine love and truth. Through Him, we receive forgiveness, grace, and a restored connection with God, which no earthly achievement or relationship can replace. Jesus offers peace in suffering, hope in uncertainty, and unconditional love that transforms our hearts and lives. He is not just a historical figure or moral teacher—He is the living Savior who walks with us daily, guiding, healing, and empowering us to live with meaning and compassion. In Him, we find the fullness of life both now and forever.
Realigning our relationships begins with our relationship with our Savior, and Lord Jesus Christ. If this relationship is solid, it will help our other relationships to be good as well. Realigning relationships through a biblical lens involves embracing principles of reconciliation, forgiveness, love, and humility. Here are some key insights drawn from Scripture:
1. Reconciliation Is a Divine Calling
- 2 Corinthians 5:18 – “God… hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation.”
We're called to mend broken relationships just as God reconciled us to Himself through Christ.
- Matthew 5:24 – “First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.”
Reconciliation is prioritized even above religious rituals.
Jesus prayed in His prayer in John 17, that we as His disciples, His followers, that we be one, as He and the Father are one. the apostle Paul writes to the church at Ephesus, that we are to "endeavor to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace." (Ephesians 4:3)
2. Forgiveness Is Foundational
- Ephesians 4:32 – “Be kind and compassionate… forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Forgiveness is not optional—it’s a reflection of divine grace.
- Matthew 6:14 – “If you forgive other people… your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”
Our forgiveness of others is tied to our own spiritual renewal.
We must remember at all times, in all our relationships, that we who are in Christ, are a forgiven people. That means that just as Jesus Christ brought about God's forgiveness by His sacrificial death on the cross, that we are to never hesitate to offer forgiveness to those who have harmed us, or have made it difficult for us in our lives.
3. Practice Love as an Action
- 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 – “Love is patient, love is kind… it is not proud.”
Love is the glue that binds relationships—it’s active, sacrificial, and enduring.
- James 3:18 – “Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.”
Love leads to peace, and peace leads to spiritual fruit.
I remember this illustration of love and forgiveness: It is the sweet and appealing fragrance that a flower gives off when it is trampled. The strong natural tendency when we are hurt or harmed by others, is to get even, or to display a cold shoulder, vowing to never have anything to do with that person, or party ever again. But instead of doing what is natural, we must do what is super-natural, and show the love and forgiveness that God demonstrated toward us, through His Son, the Lord Jesus Christ.
4. Build Trust and Honesty
- Open dialogue, consistency, and accountability are essential for trust.
Scripture encourages us to speak truthfully and listen actively to foster deeper bonds.
- James 1:19-20 "Therefore my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God."
I am one who has, and at times still have anger issues. Sometimes over the littlest things. But I have learned that anger only makes things worse in the conflicts, and arguments we have with others. It is like pouring gasoline on a fire.
Solomon writes: "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
5. Embrace Humility and Selflessness
- Philippians 2:3 – “Do nothing out of selfish ambition… value others above yourselves.”
Realignment often begins with putting others first and letting go of pride.
In the realignment of our relationships, we need to see what our attitude, and position should be in our relationships. Instead of the attitude of selfishness, and pride, there needs to be an attitude of humility, and placing ourselves in the position of servant-hood. To answer the question: How can I be a blessing to those around me? To those in my family, friends in the community, to everyone that we have contact with. When our attitude is right, so will our relationships.
If you're navigating a strained relationship, these principles offer a road map toward healing.
Looking back on my years as being a pastor, I remember the congregations I served, and the affect they had on me, and my family. With any vocation, or career, there are the ups and downs. It is definitely a people business. And you deal with people who are very supportive, and those who are obstacles to the work and progress of the work, and growth of the church. A congregation can either be a source of strength or strain for a pastor. The Bible speaks to the fact that the healthiest relationships are built on mutual respect, shared burdens, and spiritual unity. When a church embraces its pastor with grace, prayer, and partnership, it reflects the heart of Christ—and the entire body flourishes.The Bible offers rich insights into how a congregation can profoundly affect a pastor—spiritually, emotionally, and even physically. Here are several key themes drawn from Scripture and biblical reflections:
I remember a pastor friend of mind, who has gone home to be with the Lord, said something to me that I never forgot. He said,"A shepherd does not give birth to sheep, only sheep give birth to sheep." The point he was making to me was that a shepherd's main responsibility, is to take care of the sheep in his fold. Which is a picture of what the main role of a pastor is, in regards to the church. And for a pastor to be effective in the care of his congregation, he must definitely be among the people.
When a pastor is truly among the people—present, engaged, and relational—it profoundly affects the growth of a congregation. This isn’t just about attendance numbers; it’s about spiritual depth, unity, and transformation. Here’s how Scripture and biblical principles illuminate this dynamic:
1. Shepherding Through Presence
1 Peter 5:2–3 calls pastors to “be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care… being examples to the flock.” A shepherd doesn’t lead from a distance. By walking with the sheep, the pastor builds trust, models Christ-like character, and nurtures spiritual growth. There are pastors that rely on their preaching and teaching of the Word of God. Even though this is the responsibility of every pastor, just as important is the ministry of visitation, and personal encouragement of the Word of God. It is a statement of the pastor to each member of the congregation, that it's more than just words from the pulpit, but it's his presence and involvement that backs up the words that he shares.
2. Building Genuine Relationships
When pastors are accessible and relational, they foster a culture of openness and belonging. This reflects Acts 2:44–47, where believers were “together and had everything in common.” The early church grew because of deep fellowship, not just good preaching. it is important for the members of the congregation to know without a doubt, that their pastor is a close friend, and will celebrate with them in the good times, and comfort them in the bad. When a pastor bonds with his church members, (not just some, but all) it really becomes a very rewarding experience for both the pastor, and the members.
3. Equipping Through Engagement
Ephesians 4:11–13 teaches that pastors equip the saints for ministry. That equipping happens best through personal interaction—mentoring, listening, and walking alongside people in their daily lives. I heard a professor of a Christian college, talk about how effective it is when a pastor taps his members on the shoulder, and directs them towards a special personal ministry. As a pastor, you have to spend time with the members, to know them personally, in order to help them to be fitted, and framed for their work in the church, and their witness to the world.
4. Teaching That Connects
A pastor who knows their people can preach with relevance and compassion. 2 Timothy 4:2 urges pastors to “correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction.” That kind of teaching requires knowing the struggles and joys of the congregation. As a pastor, the more you know the members of your congregation, the more you will be able to share Scripture that will really hit the target as far as meeting their needs.
5. Guiding Through Crisis
Pastors who are present during grief, conflict, or hardship become spiritual anchors. Acts 20:28 reminds leaders to “keep watch over yourselves and all the flock… Be shepherds of the church of God.” Presence during pain builds spiritual resilience. It is vitally important that pastors are there for the members when they are going through various trials. As a minister of Jesus Christ, in those times of trial, you represent Christ. You are the feet, the voice, the loving arms of Jesus, that will make such a difference in the lives of those who are going through difficulties in the family of God. .
6. Modeling Servant Leadership
Philippians 2:3–4 and John 13 show Jesus serving His disciples. Pastors who serve humbly—visiting homes, praying with members, joining in community work—model the gospel in action. This inspires others to serve and deepens the church’s witness. A pastor is not to be like a dictator, but is to be like Jesus, who was a servant leader. When Jesus washed the disciples feet, He showed them an example, of how they were to minister to one another. When a pastor is seen serving, and ministering to the members of his church, every time it speaks to the church, of how we are to follow that example, and be strongly involved in ministering to one another.